by Francesca Caramante – a younger Women of the Word
So many girls get pressured into sexual relationships because they feel that if they don’t give in, they won’t be wanted anymore. Stop right there!! You do not have to give yourself away for this “love” that you think is true.
A lot of girls go into relationships to find a fairy tale “love” to feel wanted or beautiful. The truth is, you will NOT feel wanted or beautiful until you realize what God’s word says…that we are made in His image. He says that we are His. He says “I love you.”
The truth is that until we realize that we do not need a man to be accepted, we should not be in a relationship at all. Many girls don’t seem to realize this, so they get into relationships (usually unhealthy ones). Guys try to get more intimate in a sexual way. If the girl isn’t secure in herself and her relationship with God, she will eventually give in. In the long run, she will only be hurt because no good thing comes out of going away from God’s plan.
If you have given in, it is not too late to stop and ask for forgiveness. Tell the person you’re with that it is not right. If he is not a Christian, then you need to realize that your values aren’t the same. How do we get out of this though? First of all, we need to avoid situations in which we could fall into temptation. We can’t wait until moments before we are about to fall into sexual sin. We must be honest in our relationships and know that God’s plan is no sex until marriage. Also, we need to come to the understanding that we can not do this in our own strength. We need to ask God for the strength to do the right thing, come clean, and step into His plan for us.
The devil wants to trick us into thinking sin is okay. He will tell us lies to make us think we are even more rejected when we mess up. Stop believing these lies! Christ gave up his life because He LOVES you so much. Girls, you are precious. “Precious” means to be of great value, and something of great value should not be wasted or treated carelessly. God says that you are PRECIOUS in His eyes. He’s not wrong nor will He ever be wrong. If you are stuck doing things that you feel pressured to do because you don’t want to lose the person that you think “loves” you, I encourage you to stop and take time to read about what God thinks of you. God’s Word shows how much He loves you. We have the privilege to go to His word when we feel hopeless or insecure. Ladies, Jesus is the very best example of a man’s love. Don’t let the men in this world determine your beauty. You are God’s daughter. You are beautiful!
Francesca is a young lady in her teens, and is growing into a beautiful Christian woman. She is part of the generation Women of the Word is praying for and seeking to reach more and more! Together we can transform the culture and advance God’s Kingdom purposes across generations!