Don’t Gossip

May 16, 2024 Devotional by Rose-Marie Slosek

For lack of wood the fire goes out, And where there is no gossiper, quarreling quiets down.  (Proverbs 26:20 NASB)

We fuel a lot of dangerous, destructive fires with our tongues. They are technically arson because we start them deliberately and often with bad intent. God sees all things. He sees what others do, and He sees what you do. He doesn’t need you to tell others about what your neighbor did. Actually, it is safe to say He doesn’t want you to tell others about what your neighbor allegedly did.

Stay away from busybodies, and don’t be one yourself. It takes a lot of time to live right, to give God adequate time, to do the necessary tasks of everyday life, to honor the sabbath, and to worship. You really don’t have time to be always watching and judging what others are doing or not doing and then discussing it amongst others. When you do that, you are being a busybody, and you are sinning and causing others to sin.

If you don’t add fuel to the gossip fire, things get mighty quite mighty quickly. Learning to sit on your front porch with others and say nothing, or only say edifying things, is a truly blessed thing. And think of this: listening is an active role in gossip just as much as speaking. It can be hard to be the one to walk away from or shut down the gossip talk, but once you do, people will be more careful around you as to what they choose to say. 

If you feel the need arising to talk about someone, talk to yourself and God about it first. What can talking with another about someone else do for you? You might need a good talking to from yourself or from God to rearrange where your heart is in the matter. We really don’t have a right to think poorly about our neighbor. There is an old rabbinic tradition that seeks to put people in the best light possible by considering why their allegedly bad behavior happened or why they might have had good reason for their actions.  While it is wrong to justify evil, there is a place to give people the benefit of the doubt when you don’t understand or approve of their behavior. To do otherwise is to take things into your hands instead of putting it in God’s hands. Again, this is not to justify an actual evil, for there are biblical guidelines to deal with sin in a community, but to keep you from sinning by assuming something or saying something about someone that is inaccurate or untrue. 

Put out the fires of gossip. Better yet, don’t let them get started.


Rose-Marie Slosek came to know the Lord in the early nineteen seventies and has a passion for organic church and the maturing of the Body of Christ. She loves to connect people and build healthy community in small groups. She travels widely and assists several mission teams. Rose-Marie also serves Women of the Word on their Board of Directors. She can be reached at email